Rekindle the Magic: How to Spark Joy into Your Days

This article has been researched and written by Arelang Naturals^® in-house writers.

You’re winding down after another busy day, finally ready to relax, and there it is—that small flicker of longing. You think to yourself, "Tonight’s the night." You feel it in the way your mind drifts, imagining a moment just for you and your partner. Maybe you even go so far as to set a reminder or mentally mark the moment in your head…only to find yourself, yet again, pushing it off. What happened to the spark? And why does the simple idea of closeness feel like one more thing on a growing list of ‘things to do’?

You’re not alone if you feel that way. Modern life has a way of piling on so many layers of distraction, fatigue, and overstimulation that by the time we get to that point in the evening, all we crave is sleep, time alone or just Netflix (without the chill). The thing is, reconnecting with your base desires doesn’t have to be about grand gestures or dramatic changes. It can start with something as simple as a small, indulgent moment to remind yourself—and each other—of the joy in being close with your partner.

Here’s how to rekindle that spark even when life keeps throwing distractions your way.

1. Ditch the Alarm, Embrace the Impulse

Setting "mental intimacy alarms" might sound like a quirky idea, but let’s be real—how often do you actually follow them? A calendar ping saying “Get romantic now!” is more likely to get snoozed than spark anything meaningful. Desire doesn’t clock in and out like a 9-to-5 job—it thrives on spontaneity, impulsiveness, and those unpredictable little sparks.

Instead of scheduling the magic, look for it in everyday moments: the knowing glance while loading the dishwasher, or that playful nudge during a Netflix binge. These tiny, unplanned connections often do more to light the fire than any scheduled reminder ever could. Bonus? They feel real, natural, and completely unforced.

Pro Tip: Keep a little indulgence nearby—like a piece of decadent dark chocolate. It’s an ultimate mood-setter, helping you both relax and savor the moment. This might be the perfect time to introduce Rekindle chocolates, which are designed to stimulate the senses, spark the mood and energy allowing you to let the rest of the world melt away.

2. Break the Routine (Yes, Even if it Feels Uncomfortable)

Falling into a routine can feel safe and comfortable, but it’s often the biggest enemy of intimacy. When everything is predictable, it’s easy to lose sight of what makes your connection feel special. This can leave you feeling like roommates rather than partners. The truth is, routines are great for getting things done, but they rarely leave room for spontaneity, spark and connection. Breaking free from your established patterns doesn’t have to mean a complete overhaul of your lifestyle; sometimes, a small shift is all it takes to make things feel fresh and exciting again.

Pro Tip: Instead of your usual evening TV ritual, surprise your partner with a cozy, candlelit dessert in the living room or balcony, or suggest an impromptu post dinner stroll. If you typically save weekends for errands, switch it up and make time for a lazy morning in bed or a spontaneous breakfast to a new café. The goal is to create opportunities that feel a little out of the ordinary, so you both get to experience each other in a new context—one that feels just a bit more playful and relaxed.

3. Embrace Touch Outside of “Intimate” Moments

Physical touch shouldn’t just be reserved for the “big intimacy moments.” It’s the little, everyday gestures that keeps the connection alive. A quick hug before work, a playful nudge while cooking, or even a hand squeeze during a grocery run—these small touches say, “Hey, I’m here, and I’ve got you.” Bonus? They trigger a dose of oxytocin - the “warm and fuzzy” bonding hormone, making both of you feel closer and calmer.

And Science backs it up! Couples who regularly share non-romantic touch are more satisfied in their relationships. So, sprinkle in those forehead kisses and shoulder pats. They’re the real heroes of closeness, no candles or mood lighting required.

4. Make Room for Playfulness

In longer relationships, it’s easy to become overly serious or task-oriented, especially when there’s a lot to juggle between work, family, and personal responsibilities. But adding a touch of playfulness can bring back the spark and make your time together feel more like an adventure. Playfulness reminds you that love isn’t all about duty and routine; it’s also about laughter, lightness, and shared joy.

Think back to the early days of your relationship and the things that used to make you laugh. Maybe it’s a silly dance in the kitchen or a playful game of cards. Or maybe it’s bringing back a shared “inside joke” that only the two of you understand. Don’t underestimate how these small, playful moments can add warmth and energy to your relationship. Sometimes, laughter is the best aphrodisiac.

5. Hormones: The Heroes (or Villains) of Intimacy

Hormones like testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, and oxytocin quietly call the shots when it comes to intimacy. When they’re in sync, everything flows—mood, desire, and connection feel natural. But when stress, aging, or lifestyle changes throw these delicate balances off, even the best relationships can feel... forced.

The Rekindle Solution:

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Adaptogens like Ashwagandha and Ginseng tackle stress head-on by reducing cortisol, while mood-boosters like Saffron and Ginkgo keep your spirits high and energy steady. The result? A calmer, happier you (both)—ready to relax, connect, and make room for those intimate moments that bring you closer.

6. Create a Ritual That’s Just for the Two of You

In a busy life filled with family, friends, and work obligations, it’s easy to feel like you’re on the  “switch on mode” for everyone else all day. That’s why it’s so important to have a ritual that’s just for the two of you—a moment each day, or each week, that’s reserved for connecting with each other without distractions. This could be a weekend breakfast date, a weekly stroll around the neighbourhood, dinner and movie night, or even something as simple as a nightly wind-down chat before bed.

A shared ritual becomes a kind of anchor in your relationship, something you can count on and look forward to, no matter how hectic the week has been. It doesn’t have to be complicated; it just has to be yours. The act of carving out intentional time together reinforces the idea that your relationship is a priority, no matter what else is going on in your lives.

7. Turn Down the Digital Distractions

Screens are the biggest barrier to intimacy in modern relationships. Whether it’s late-night emails, endless scrolling, or binge-watching shows, technology tends to get in the way of genuine connection. Studies reveal that partners feel more disconnected and less satisfied in their relationships when digital distractions get in the way. By setting aside tech-free time, you’re able to give each other undivided attention, which often makes you feel closer and more attuned to one another.

Try This: Set a “no screens” rule for one hour before bed, or even just during dinner. Use that time to talk, laugh, or simply be present with each other, talking about your day is a good start to set this routine to action. You’ll be surprised how much difference it makes when you’re not distracted by notifications and can focus solely on each other.

8. Lean Into Simple Pleasures

Sometimes, we forget that intimacy can be as simple as enjoying life’s little pleasures together. A shared experience—a quiet sunset, a great glass of wine, or even a decadent piece of chocolate—can foster a sense of closeness without needing words. These little pleasures, when enjoyed together, help you both relax and feel more open to intimacy.

Tip: Treat yourselves to a small indulgence, like a special dessert or dark chocolate made with mood-boosting ingredients (like the Rekindle chocolates designed to enhance connection). By making a shared ritual out of savoring these moments, you can build an atmosphere of warmth and relaxation.

Intimacy changes, just like we do. And as life layers itself with new responsibilities and demands, it’s easy to see how those quiet moments of closeness slip away. But the beautiful thing is, the spark is never gone. It’s just waiting for the right moments—those sweet, stolen minutes in the day, or the warmth of shared chocolate and laughter. By embracing the journey and finding small, simple ways to reconnect, you’re not just preserving your love; you’re creating a stronger, deeper bond.

Sometimes, all it takes to rekindle that joy is a little sweetness—a reminder that there’s always time for a small touch, a shared glance, or a rich bite of chocolate. So here’s to those moments, no matter where you are in life. Because love, like good chocolate, only gets richer with time.